Bismillaah Ar-Rahmaan Ar-Raheem
Last summer my mother went back home on urgent trip to see my uncle who has cancer for which I ask you all to make du’a that Allaah ‘azza wa jall gives him shifaa’ and long life so that he can see his children grow up and support them.
She was away for about 3 months but it felt like a lifetime. I realised in my mothers absence how I missed the simplest of things I took for granted – coming home and calling for her and giving my salaams to her and asking how she is, I missed those days I would lie down and snuggle up beside her. I missed kissing her beautiful forehead and waking up in the morning to beat her to make her breakfast. I missed her love, care and warmth, her soft touch and gentle looks.
My relationship with my mother improved drastically when I started to practice and learn about Islam and the rights my mother has over me, it is the love of Allaah ‘azza wa jall that drew me ever so closer to my mother especially as my father returned to Allaah 13 years ago (may Allaah have mercy on his dear soul and grant him light in his grave ameen).
I was thinking about the concept of friendship, I have really amazing friends alhamdhu lillaah but I realised that no one can be a better friend than ones own mother, the title of ‘Best Friend’ truly belongs to my mother.
When I think of a friend I think of someone who is always there for you no matter what you do and say and can forgive you and overlook your faults, who loves you no matter what, a friend is someone you carry in your heart whereever you go, who brings you happiness and remembers you, someone you miss when they are absent from you, someone you can open up to and talk to. I can proudly say my mother fits these qualities the best and she gives more than that, she gives unconditional love and care, she has been there for me the second I was born.
Parents are our doors to jannah, by serving them is a way to enter jannah insha Allaah and this is why I fear to have that second door to jannah shut and I pray Allaah assists me to take advantage of the time I have to serve my mother and please Allaah ‘azza wa jall.
Friends can replace you (usually), a company you work for so hard can easily replace you but your family – they can never replace you and a mother you can never replace – I know there are people out there who dont have good relationships with their parents or do not speak to their parents or hate them (may Allaah protect us from this) but I pray that Allaah brings you closer and places mercy in your hearts so that you can love each other and for those who dont have parents may Allaah ‘azza wa jall reunite you in Jannah ameen.
I have a frame with a poem about mothers, its short but sweet:
Mother
To one who bears the sweetest name
and adds luster to the same,
long life to her for there is no other
than my dear mother.
I once bought a frame with a poem about family because I liked the meaning of it:
A special family
Families have their arguments
some can go on for days,
We’re all different personalities
in different funny ways
But we’ve got one thing in common
something we all share,
we’re blood and should remember this
we’re family and we care.
It’s a thing we should cherish
whatever at all cost,
without my family around me
I know I would be lost.
assalam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
subhanAllaah, well put. just the thought of my mother makes tears swell up in my eyes. what a blessing our parents are no matter how much tension there be, we are blessed in dunya with so much. first Allaah swt gives us the honor to know His Godship, His Oneness, His EverLsting EverMerciful EverJUst Existence, giving Himself the responsibility to look after us, and then He takes care of us with suchhh loveeee by bestowing upon us the beautiful inevitable relationship of family, from being nurtured and cooed by our parents to becoming their soldiers and bodyguards until one of you passes away… may Allaah swt the Most Merciful give your father ease and comfort in the grave and give him light eminating as wide as the heavens as bright as the sun and forgive him of all his sins, He is al Ghafur, Ar Raheem… may Allaah swt help us fulfill our duties to our parents in this life before we pass away and may He swt make us beneficial (sadaqa jaaria) for their entrance into the highest realms of paradise, Aameen thumma aameen.
Asalamualaikum my dear dear sister.
Ohh I have had to do ALOT of catching up. Ive been reading your wonderful site for a week or so and alhamdullihah, HOW did I get worthy to even get a mention???? Uncomprehendable. Jazakallah Khayr for your dua’s, your help, everything. Its unmeasurable what you have done for me. And alhamdullilah I’m MUCH better only from the Tawfeeq of Allah T.
I remember when your Mum went, you were really lonely. Mums are so special, youre right, you can replace others in your life, but not your Mum. I dont know how I would have got through those trials without her support, her assurance, her hope and of course her food! :) May Allah T reward all our mothers with Jannat Al Firdous, and that we can get there too inshaAllah and be with them.
Love you my dear and miss you muchly.
xx :) xx
You really wanted to make people cry this time, didnt you?
Masha’Allah nice post.
JazakAllah Khair.
May Allah give your uncle shiffa sabr. Ameen
May Allah strengthen the bond between you and your mother. Ameen
May Allah protect us all. Ameen
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Asalamualaikum little sis…
Where are you? Now I’m free you’ve disappeared… missing your mubarak postings, and of course your smile.
Love and duas
wasalaam
xx :) xx
asslm alkm wr wb deaaaaaaaaaarest ukhtee,
this is for u: http://www.islamictube.net/watch/8b2060f380a53c02cf3d/The-True-Queens-of-Islam
i truly miss u :( im sorry im too busy to stay in touch, it is only hurting me, not helping, when i don’t talk to u for months at a time :(
ur in my sweeetest prayers du’aat iA <3
Nice post mashaAllah.
Beautiful post masha’Allaah.